In the last five years of being in a relationship, I can honestly say that right now I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. It was not always like this. Relationships are not always easy, and I only know a few that are “a match made in heaven”. As for my relationship, we had to work together to get to the point we are at right now. Here’s a few things that I’ve learned are essential for a lasting relationship.
Trust is one of the truest tests in any relationship. It can either make or break it. You should be able to rely on your partner, and they should on you, too.
Loyalty is rare. I can’t even count how many times I’ve witnessed disloyalty in others, and yet they act surprised when their relationship doesn’t last. Being in a relationship is scary. Some of the biggest reasons for break-ups are cheating, being dishonest, or hiding things from your partner.
This is a tough one, and I admit that I myself have a lot of trouble in this area. You can’t expect your partner to read your mind. Tell them what’s bothering you, how you feel, and what you want from them. Along with communication comes understanding. Try to understand their side, or their reasoning before speaking. Watch your ego.
Celebrate your accomplishments
Life isn’t easy. You and your partner are a team. Don’t forget to celebrate your wins together. Just got that job you’ve been working hard for? Go out on a dinner date!
Growth is important in every relationship. For so long, my partner and I weren’t growing. This caused a lot of problems between us. We were stuck in our ways, and not pursuing our passions in life.
Our relationship grew the day that we grew. We chose to go after our passions, and after seeing the difference that it made, I never see us giving up or losing sight in what we love again. Now, we do what we can to grow more every day.
You need space in order to grow. This can be hard if you’re the clingy type. If you are the clingy type, this means that you don’t know how to make time for yourself. As I mentioned, it is vital that each person in the relationship grows. It’s important to learn more about yourself and love yourself first.
What helped me personally, was finding my passion and surrounding myself with it. We all have a purpose in this life. What is yours?
Being kind to your partner is just as important as being kind to yourself. Do not criticize or belittle them. This will slowly deteriorate any relationship. Give them compliments, do nice things for them, and tell them how much they mean to you.
What do you picture when you think of a healthy, lasting relationship? Do you see two people who fight all the time and tear each other down? Or do you see a couple who helps each other grow?
Was this post helpful to you? What has helped your relationship last? Tell me about it in the comments!